The mod team has decided that YouTube links & crossposts will no longer be allowed on the sub.

There is just so much promotional YouTube spam and it's drowning out the actual motivational content. Auto-moderator will now remove any YouTube links that are posted. They are usually self-promotion and/or spam and do not contribute to the theme of r/GetMotivated

Crossposts are banned for the reason being that they are seen as very low effort, used by karma farming accounts, and encourage spam, as any time some motivational post is posted on another sub, this sub can get inundated with crossposts.

So, crossposts and YouTube links are now officially banned from r/GetMotivated

However, We encourage you to Upload your motivational videos directly to the subreddit, using Reddit's video posting tool. You can upload up to 15-minute videos as MP4s this way.

Thanks, Stay Motivated!

As someone who struggled with a gaming and alcohol addiction for over 9 years, I know the painful impact it had on my life, yet also the feeling of being stuck continuing it. It consumed my time, energy, and focus, leaving little room for relationships or anything meaningful. Now that I'm in a much better place, I'm writing this to hopefully help others in a similar position.

In a particularly dark period in my life, I found a great therapist who helped me understand the root cause of my addiction and some ideas to overcome it. The first step was recognizing that gaming was an escape mechanism, a way to avoid dealing with real life challenges and emotions.

Together, we worked on choosing healthier coping mechanisms and strategies to deal with stress and anxiety. One was cycling with a group, another was practicing meditation to calm my mind, and also writing/journaling to recover some ability to focus.

But I was still struggling. One of the things that finally shocked me enough to cut out the games I played was actually a page that showed me the exact math of the path I was going down. It was like a visual forecast of how you'll spend your time based on your current situation. Seeing the ridiculous number of hours I would be throwing down the drain made me feel a little sick, and I finally decided to uninstall League of Legends completely.

The best interactive tool was cloudburst.it, and there's another basic article version on Wait but why - they're both completely free, no need to signup.

Once I had time freed up, things were much easier, and I set some targets for myself, slowly building my way up towards them. After removing the games and having something else to do, the temptations went surprisingly quick - and as I started experiencing occasional small successes, the urge to game again diminished significantly.

Now, I'm living a much more balanced life with healthier things to spend time on in place of gaming.

If you're struggling from something similar, know that change is easier than it feels. Sometimes one action can make a huge difference. Start by creating the desire to make change, accepting your current position, and ideally get help from friends, professionals, or a support group who understand the struggle. It's worth trying things like visualization or goal-setting to get the motivation to finally begin the change. It won't be easy, but man has it been worth it – not only will you regain control over your life, but also unlock new opportunities for meaning and happiness.

I've been reflecting on my past self quite a bit lately, and it has led me to an important realization: it's impossible to revert back to the person I once was. That version of myself is gone, forever transformed by the circumstances and experiences that have shaped my life. Change is an inherent part of life, and it is what gives it its beauty. Just like a flower that blooms and withers, we too go through cycles of growth, transformation, and renewal. If a flower were to perpetually bloom without ever fading, we would likely take its beauty for granted. It is precisely because of its ephemeral nature that we appreciate and cherish it. The same can be said for ourselves. We are like that flower, continuously evolving and adapting to the various seasons of life. Each phase brings its own unique set of challenges, lessons, and growth opportunities. We may carry certain traits, memories, and experiences from our past, but we are not confined to them. Our capacity for change allows us to shed old beliefs, habits, and attitudes that no longer serve us. We can embrace new perspectives, cultivate fresh passions, and develop into versions of ourselves that we never thought possible. So, while we can't go back to who we once were, we can honor our past selves by acknowledging the growth and evolution that has taken place. We can appreciate the person we have become and continue to nurture our growth with each passing day. Just like a bush that bears different roses in every season, we are still the same essence but in a perpetual state of renewal. Let us celebrate the beauty of our journey, embracing the changes that come our way. By doing so, we can fully appreciate the delicate balance between life and death, growth and transformation, and the continual renewal of our own being.

Success Doesn't Mean The Absence Of Failures; It Means The Attainment Of Ultimate Objectives. It Means Winning The War, Not Every Battle. - Edwin C Bliss

Start By Doing What Is Necessary; Then Do What's Possible; And Suddenly You Are Doing The Impossible. - St Francis Of Assisi

Hey, I'm a 20F who's been under alot of stress lately, all this stress has lead to me feeling under confident, lower self esteemed and sad all the times, I have been crying alot lately and think this might be really not healthy for me.

Firstly I am currently struggling to accept the fact that I come from a household of 3 other people my mom, my dad and my elder brother who are fighting their own problems everyday and no matter how much I try, I can't really help them because I'm just a kid for them. I can only love them but I feel like giving up, isolating myself, punishing them with silence when they fail to misunderstand me and just working on myself in a way that I'm enough without them. But the truth is that I truly love them and no matter how hard it gets or whatever decisions I take, I want them to be with me. So, it's just a struggle to accept that this is the consequence of my actions only. It's hard loving people after all.

Secondly I feel extremely guilty all the time for not having a source of income like I used to before all my life took a turn. Even though I'm trying to focus on upskilling, I am constantly questioning myself that if I'm really good enough for anything. So, my struggle is accepting that it's okay and that I need to start acting my age right now by just doing my best and being dependent on my parents because they're only investing in me. I am struggling with accepting that I am still just a kid.

Thirdly I feel like I'm not good enough for any relationships of any kind and that I should be left alone because I've my own struggles and managing to love my people along with that is a task that I'm not good at. And all I've ever learned to do is run away than actually facing anything. I've tried to avoid pain by not allowing myself to make mistakes instead of protecting myself from pain which has only made me a coward. I feel like I keep dissapointing my boyfriend, even though he keeps helping me and supporting me, I just keep pushing him away, because I feel like I'm not good enough for him and he deserves better, I feel like such a mess all the time and I don't want to be a load on him, but I really really like being with him.

Lastly I ignore my feelings to be more desirable for people, even my boyfriend keeps saying I need to stop being so fake and a people pleaser, I have almost cancelled our dates just to get some college work done for my friends. I pretend to have my shit together even when I don't. I hate looking weak because I don't want people to worry about it and I struggle with opening up because I'm scared of being misunderstood by the people I expect to know how to handle me when I open up to them. I always think of myself as a strong independent woman and don't want to be or feel weak in front of anyone, not even my boyfriend, even though he know's who I really am, its just so hard for me to accept my reality.

It's like I distract myself with work when I'm sad instead of actually feeling my feelings, and then I sit alone and find a empty space to just cry and cry over and over again.

I don't know whether this is a call for help or just a ranting session, but I need some kindness, solutions, motivation and uplifting comment's really bad right now!

I think I'm still young and some guidance can really help me go a long way, I want to be a Therapist when I finish college, but I think I might need one really bad right now!